Advance care planning, end-of-life preferences, and family guidance — in plain language.
By Richard T. Beeman. Published by Ars Moriendi Project.
My Dying Wishes: How I Want to Be Treated as I Go and After I’m Gone
The flagship volume of the series — a comprehensive guide to advance care planning that goes far beyond Five Wishes and similar short-form documents. My Dying Wishes walks readers step-by-step through medical decision-making, designating a health care proxy, articulating values and treatment preferences, planning for dementia and cognitive decline, hospice and comfort care, and after-death wishes — burial, cremation, memorial, and legacy.
Where most advance directive tools stop at a one-page checklist, My Dying Wishes gives you the language, context, and worksheets to have real conversations with your family, your doctor, and your care team — and to leave a record they can actually use when the time comes.
How I Want to Be Treated is also a terrific guide for death doulas, chaplains, social workers, and other practitioners working with end-of-life clients — a practical framework for leading conversations about care, dignity, and what matters most.
Format: 8.5 x 11, designed to be written in and shared. Available in paperback on Amazon, and as a downloadable PDF direct from Ars Moriendi Project.
Order the paperback: https://www.amazon.com/My-Dying-Wishes-Treated-After/dp/B09QFBBSTF/
PDF edition: email contact@arsmoriendiproject.com to purchase.
My Dying Wishes: A Companion Workbook (Advance Directive Essentials)
The companion to the main guide — step-by-step worksheets for documenting your health care proxy, treatment preferences, personal values, and medical history in a format your family and providers can use at the bedside.
Designed to work alongside How I Want to Be Treated, the Companion Workbook distills the advance directive essentials into fillable pages you can complete on your own, with a trusted friend, or with a doula, chaplain, or clinician.
Format: 8.5 x 11, designed to be written in. Available in paperback on Amazon and as a downloadable PDF direct from Ars Moriendi Project.
Order the paperback: https://www.amazon.com/My-Dying-Wishes-Directive-Essentials/dp/B09QP241XP/
PDF edition: email contact@arsmoriendiproject.com to purchase.
After I’m Gone: Essential Information for My Family
A single source for the critical information survivors need — accounts, passwords, document locations, beneficiaries, contacts, and wishes — so your family isn’t left searching after you’re gone.
After I’m Gone complements the advance care planning work of the first two volumes by focusing on what happens after death: the practical, logistical, and emotional information your loved ones will need in the days, weeks, and months that follow.
Order the paperback: https://www.amazon.com/After-Gone-Essential-Information-Passwords/dp/B0CT3YMCCW/
For Death Doulas, Chaplains, and Care Practitioners
How I Want to Be Treated is widely used by death doulas, chaplains, hospice workers, and social workers as a conversational framework for end-of-life planning. Its plain-language structure and 8.5 x 11 workbook format make it a practical companion for client sessions, family meetings, and training programs.
For bulk orders, classroom sets, training discounts, or signed copies, email contact@arsmoriendiproject.com.
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